..controlling or..loving

BE CONTROLLING OR LOVING
...Ali merungut...."susah berader....ini tak boleh ,itu tak boleh......semuanya mem i control...Duit i pun dia control.....setiap hari dia bagi i 5 ringgit..malu dgn kekawan....asyik dia org je sponsor i..."

Ada kawan sorang pulak...merungut " wife I asyik check wallet dan handfon.....telipon setiap sejam sekali dan kadang-kadang tepon line ofis....sengaja nak chek i...ada tak kat ofis..."

You may choose to control others - ANAK-ANAK ANDA........, SUAMI ATAU ISTERI ANDA..........., BOSS ANDA......., KAWAN-KAWAN ANDA.

You may control overtly by THREAT......, INTIMIDATION........... or ACTUAL FORCE

Or you may choose subtle means atau cara yang lembut of control through....... CARA MENGODA(SEDUCTION)............., BEING TOO NICE(BERBUAT BAIK)..............., MENDIAMKAN DIRI SEMASA ANDA SEPATUTNYA BERCAKAP.................., - all in order to WIN or KEEP.... someone's favor.

You may become a master at controlling by making others feel guilty, or by confusing others with your words or actions.
The method is not important............. It is the underlying desire for control, really a fear of being out of control,........... that defines what you doing.

CONTROL WORKS FOR A WHILE..SEKEJAP JE BERJAYA...... . But others know when they are being MANIPULATED, andEVENTUALLY DAN LAMA-LAMA AKAN TAHU DAN MEMBENCI ANDA.......
The alternative is to realize that love is the real power iaitu kasih sayang brader.....

. It is not 'your' love, but simply love flowing through you................... Love brings its own action.

You can realize that you have a choice in each situation to extend love, or to project fear.