Thursday, August 29, 2013

Adakah kita di sayangi Allah?

"...tanda-tanda Iman ditarik dari hati (ditutup pintu hatinya) ialah Allah akan sibukkan dirinya dengan urusan dunia..."
(mafhum riwayah).

Kata ustaz, apabila Allah tidak mengkehendaki kita lagi...
Allah akan sibukkan kita dengan urusan dunia...
Allah akan sibukkan kita dengan urusan anak-anak
Allah akan sibukkan kita dengan urusan menjalankan perniagaan.
Allah akan sibukkan kita dengan urusan menambahkan harta.
Allah akan sibukkan kita dengan urusan mencari pengaruh, pangkat dan kuasa...Alangkah ruginya kerana kesemuanya itu akan kita tinggalkan...

Sekiranya kita mampu bertanya pada orang-orang yang telah pergi terlebih dahulu menemui Allah SWT...dan jika mereka diberi peluang untuk hidup sekali lagi sudah semestinya mereka memilih tidak lagi akan bertarung bermati-matian untuk merebut dunia...kerana tujuan kita diciptakan adalah untuk menyembah Allah dan beribadat kepada Allah...tidak akan Allah ciptakan manusia sekiranya tujuan hidup untuk merebut habuan dunia..
Sebenarnya apa yang kita dapat dari habuan dunia ini telah pun ditentukan oleh Allah SWT.

Kita mungkin cemburu apabila melihat orang lain lebih daripada kita dari segi gaji, pangkat, harta, rumah besar, kereta besar...

Kenapa...
kita tidak pernah cemburu melihat ilmu orang lain lebih daripada kita..
kita tidak pernah cemburu melihat orang lain lebih banyak amalan daripada kita..
kita tidak pernah cemburu apabila melihat orang lain bangun di sepertiga malam...solat tahajud dan bermunajat...

kita cemburu apabila melihat orang lain menukar kereta baru yang mewah...tetapi jarang kita cemburu apabila melihat orang lain yang boleh khatam Al'Quran sebulan dua kali...

Kesemua petanda-petanda ini menunjukkan dunia akhir zaman....apabila duit, harta dan pangkat mengatasi segala-galanya....setiap kali menyambut hari jadi...kita sibuk nak raikan sebaik mungkin...tetapi kita telah lupa..dengan bertambahnya umur kita...maka kita akan dipanggil Illahi bertambah dekat...kita patut bermuhasabah mengenai bekalan...ke satu perjalanan yang jauh..yang tidak akan kembali..dan buat selama-lamanya.

Sahabat yang ku sayang..
Kerinduan bertemu Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala umpama angin semilir yang menerpa qalbu, membuatnya sejuk dengan menjauhi gemerlapnya dunia. Siapapun yang menempatkan qalbunya di sisi Rabb-nya, ia akan merasa tenang dan tenteram. Dan siapapun yang melepaskan qalbunya di antara manusia, ia akan semakin gundah gulana.

Ingatlah! Kecintaan terhadap Allah tidaklah akan masuk ke dalam qalbu manusia yang mencintai dunia.

Ketahuilah wahai sahabat
Jika Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala cinta kepada seorang hamba itu, maka Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala akan memilih dia sebagai tempat pemberian nikmat-nikmat-Nya, dan Ia akan memilihnya di antara hamba-hamba-Nya, sehingga hamba itu pun akan menyibukkan dunianya hanya dengan ibadah kepada Allah. Lisannya senantiasa basah dengan berzikir kepada-Nya, anggota badannya selalu dipakai untuk berkhidmat kepada-Nya.

Ya Allah, cintailah aku dan keluargaku.janganlah Kau berpaling dari kami...
Pilihlah kami sebagai tempat pemberian

Aminnnnnn...

Sibuk kah kita?

Renungan utk semua..

"AKU SIBUK LA, BANYAK BENDA NAK KENA SETTLEKAN NI!!!"

Apabila hal-hal dalam hidup anda bagaikan terlalu banyak, kerja, anak & bini, kawan-kawan, business, orang tua kita, dan anda rasa 24 jam sehari memang tak cukup, ingatlah tin biskut kering Hup Seng dan dua cawan kopi.

Seorang professor dalam kelas sosiology telah mengeluarkan beberapa barang di hadapan kelas.

Apabila kelas dimulakan, tanpa sebarang penerangan, professor terus mengeluarkan satu tin biskut Hup Seng yang besar dan kosong, dan terus mengisi tin tersebut dengan bola-bola golf sehingga penuh.

Kemudian, professor menanyakan pada anak muridnya, “Adakah tin biskut ini sudah penuh?” Kesemua anak murid mengangguk dan mengatakan “Ya!”

Professor kemudian mengambil sekotak kacang, dan menuangkannya ke dalam tin biskut tersebut. Tin biskut digoncangkan sedikit, lalu kacang-kacang pun bergerak-gerak mengisi ruang di antara bola-bola golf.

Kemudian, professor bertanyakan lagi pada anak muridnya jikalau tin biskut tersebut sudah penuh ke belum? Anak murid mengangguk dan mengatakan “Ya!”

Selepas itu, tanpa ditunggu-tunggu, professor mengambil pula sekotak pasir dan menuangkan pasir tersebut ke dalam tin biskut. Sudah semestinya, pasir yang halus itu mengisi setiap pelusuk dan ruang di dalam tin biskut Hup Seng itu.

Kemudian professor bertanya lagi kepada anak murid, “Adakah tin biskut ini sudah penuh ?” Anak-anak murid semua mengatakan “Ya!” dengan penuh keyakinan!

Tiba-tiba, professor mengeluarkan dua cawan kopi dari bawah meja, dan menuangkan semua kopi itu ke dalam tin biskut yang sudah penuh itu. Anak-anak muridnya tersenyum melihat aksi terakhir itu.

“Sekarang..” kata professor, dan anak-anak murid kembali fokus pada professor, “Saya mahu kamu semua faham, yang tin biskut ini adalah seperti hidup anda. Bola-bola golf melambangkan perkara-perkara paling penting seperti Tuhan, Agama, Keluarga, Anak-Anak, Kesihatan, Kawan-kawan dan minat anda. Ini adalah perkara-perkara yang jika anda kehilangan benda-benda lain, semua itu sahaja yang akan tinggal, dan hidup anda akan tetap penuh berisi. Kacang-kacang merupakan hal-hal seperti kerja, kereta, rumah. Dan pasir yang kecil dan halus melambangkan perkara-perkara yang lain dalam hidup, “Perkara-perkara kecil” kata professor.

“Kalau anda masukkan pasir dahulu ke dalam tin biskut” professor menyambung, “Pasti tidak akan ada ruang untuk kacang-kacang ataupun bola-bola golf untuk masuk ke dalam tin. Sama seperti hidup ini, kalau anda luangkan semua masa dan tenaga anda pada perkara-perkara kecil sahaja, anda tidak akan ada masa dan tenaga untuk perkara-perkara yang lebih penting untuk anda…” beritahu professor.

“Jadi…tumpukan perhatian anda kepada perkara-perkara yang membahagiakan dan menggembirakan hidup anda. Sembahyanglah berjemaah. Kukuhkan ikatan silaturrahim. Bermainlah bersama anak-anak. Bawa pasangan tercinta anda keluar berjalan-jalan. Luangkan masa bersama kawan-kawan. Pasti akan ada masa untuk anda bersihkan rumah, lipat baju, repair lampu rumah. Jagalah bola-bola golf dulu, perkara yang lebih bermakna dalam hidup anda. Ketahui perkara mana yang lebih penting dan patut diutamakan. Yang lain tu semua pasir sahaja.”

Seorang anak muridnya kemudian mengangkat tangan dan bertanya, “Apa maskud kopi tu pula?”

Professor menjawab dengan penuh senyuman, “Bagus awak tanya. Ia Cuma nak menyatakan, tidak kira berapa sibuk pun hidup anda dalam seharian, pasti akan ada ruang untuk minum kopi bersama kawan-kawan.”
Jom ke kopi o corner,warong or starbuck...

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

The 7 Deadly Sins of Happiness


There are a lot of discussions going around about what actually makes people happy.

I’ve compiled what I consider the deadliest attacks on our happiness. These “sins” are so deadly that we often don’t notice we are falling into their trap until we wake up one day and wonder why we are glaring at ourselves in the mirror.

1. Comparing yourself to others

“Comparison is the death of joy.”

Thank you, Mark Twain, for starting our list today.

He’s absolutely right. Whenever you begin to size yourself based on what you see others achieving, you have no choice but to feel unhappy. Either you will feel guilty because you see those less fortunate struggling while you live in relative comfort, or you will feel inadequate because others seem to be better off than you are. It’s kind of a lose/lose scenario.

Instead, focus on making yourself a little better every day.
2. Talking about your dreams instead of going to work on them

“Contemplation often makes life miserable. We should act more, think less, and stop watching ourselves live.” -Nicolas de Chamfort

This brilliant French playwright knew a truth which eludes many to this day: acting will always make you happier than speaking.

Although it is a great idea to talk about your passions and dreams, if all you are doing is talking, you will find yourself depressed in a very short time. In fact, you will begin to feel like a fraud. You will start to question if you will ever achieve these dreams you speak about, and slowly you will stop speaking about them.

The best way to cure this is to start working on your dreams, while you talk about them. I like to say something to the effect of “I’m building up my readership to become an international best-seller. Right now I’m spending some time building up a loyal fan base on Twitter.” Do you see what I did there? I made a large statement about my end goal, as well as what my current action step is. I may not be able to claim to be a best-seller yet, but I can start to build a fan base on Twitter. By following up my words with actions, I’ll avoid feeling like a fraud.
3. Listening to people with nothing positive to say

“A complainer is like a Death Eater because there’s a suction of negative energy.”

-Barbara Corcoran

Who doesn’t love a good Harry Potter reference? All fictional character allusions aside, you would be much better off taking this wisdom to heart.

Negative people are a drain on you. It’s impossible to become immune to someone complaining in your presence—even when you diligently ignore them, simply being in the same room with someone spouting negatives will affect your mood. The only way to really combat negative people is to avoid them. It is nearly impossible to cheer a negative person up, and even if you succeed for the moment, the chances are high your former sour-puss friend will go back to his/her old ways in short order. The best you can do is go on about your business and stay around positive people.
4. Focusing on the news

“The bad news is that only the bad people reach the news, because they are noisier.”

-Javier Bardem

When was the last time you finished watching the news and felt good about the world? I don’t believe this has ever happened to me.

In 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey points out that the majority of successful people spend very little time watching the news. The primary reason behind this is that we really can do nothing about what we are watching, which leads us to feelings of helplessness and negativity. By focusing so much on problems in other parts of the world, we forget how much good we can do in our local communities.

Instead of worrying what is happening on Capitol Hill, why not focus on what you can do in your neighborhood? Are there local kids you can mentor? Can you deliver meals to the elderly? Perhaps you can organize a neighborhood beautification project, which will help everyone around you. By focusing on what you can influence locally, you will create a much greater impact on the world than by simply watching the world news and then talking to your friends about how bad things are. Plus, you’ll be much happier.
5. Deciding someone else needs to change

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”

See Also: 10 Surefire Ways To Be Unhappy in Life

-Jesus (Matthew 7:3)

Regardless of your religious beliefs, there’s no denying the wisdom of Jesus.

Have you ever thought about how much better your life would be if your spouse/coworker/child would just fix themselves(or let you fix them)? You’re not alone. As we can see, this phenomenon has existed for at least 2,000 years, and for much longer, I would wager.

It’s so easy to look at someone else and see exactly what they are doing wrong; the difficult thing is to look at ourselves and see how we can improve instead. As I draw closer to the date of my own wedding, I find myself repeating a simple prayer: “God, please help me be the husband I tell her I am.” I know I don’t always live up to my own expectations of others, but the best place to work is myself.

Instead of thinking about how others can improve, ferret out your own shortcomings and go to work on them. Trust me, you have plenty of work on yourself to keep you too busy to correct others.
6. Thinking “happiness” is a destination you can reach

“Joy has nothing to do with material things, or with man’s outward circumstance…A man living in the lap of luxury can be wretched, and a man in the depths of poverty can overflow with joy.”

-William Barclay

Many people walk around saying things like “I will be happy when I get my house paid off” “I’ll be happy when we are finally married” or sometimes “I’ll be happy when we’re finally divorced.” That last one stings a little, but I have had clients tell me that.

You may have the idea that once you accomplish a goal, you will be happy. I’m sorry to tell you, this will never be the case. Whenever you set out to achieve something and base your happiness on that achievement, you have set yourself up for dissappointment.

History is full of people who scrambled madly for money, power, fame, or any other accolade or possession we can think of, only to finally achieve their goal and discover a deep sense of disappointment. The wisest people realize that happiness is only achieved during our journey, not at the end.

Discover what makes you happy on a daily basis and create goals that line up with those activities. If your greatest happiness comes from teaching and working with children, setting a goal to be CEO of your company doesn’t really line up. You might eventually make CEO, but you won’t feel happy about it; a better goal would be to create a lifestyle business which allows you to teach and work with children as often as you like. Maybe you will make less money, but trading money for true happiness is always a good trade.
7. Forgetting to say “thank you”

“We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.”

— Cynthia Ozick

This last sin is probably the most commonly committed. Regardless of what your situation is right now, there are things you should be grateful for.

Do you have someone who loves you? When was the last time you told them how much you appreciate their love? Do you have a job and receive an income? When was the last time you thanked your boss or company president for providing you this opportunity?

Let’s say you are completely alone, broke, and in poor health; you can still read the words written in this post. Have you thought about how lucky you are someone took the time to teach you how to read, and now you have the opportunity to learn and better yourself because of that gift? Forgetting to stop and say thank you for the blessings you receive keeps you from receiving more blessings. Worse, the blessing you do receive won’t be recognized because you have learned to focus on what you lack, instead of what you have.

Take a small notepad with you throughout the day and write down any little thing you can think of to be grateful for. I promise you, within 24 hours, you will feel happier than you have in years.

Avoid these sins like the plague, and you will be well on your way to a very happy life.