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Bersyukur..thankful..

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In every challenging situation, there is something for which to be thankful. Find it, and you're well on your way to getting successfully through the challenge. It may seem strange to express gratitude while in the midst of trouble and difficulty. Yet that gratitude can help to shine a positive, empowering light on any situation. If you allow yourself to be overwhelmed with negativity, all you can see are the problems. When you choose instead to find something for which to be thankful, you start to see the all the many good and positive resources available to you. In the most difficult situations you can often find the most valuable opportunities. Gratitude will open your eyes to those opportunities. Always, there is a positive aspect to be found . Always, there is something for which you can be genuinely thankful. Find something real to be thankful for, and you'll find yourself moving forward.

Salam maal hijrah..

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Salam Maal Hijrah buat saudara2 ku yg dikasihi dan dirahmati Allah. Moga Allah sentiasa memberkati usia kita, melindungi kita dari bisikan syaitan terlaknat dan manusia yg jahat dan moga Allah memberikan kita rahmat, taufiq, hidayah dan inayahNya pd kita semua dan mendapat kebaikan, kejayaan dan kebahagiaan dunia akhirat dalam rumahtangga yg sakinah, mawaddah, warrahmah, suami-isteri yg soleh dan berakhlaq mulia, anak2 yg soleh dan berakhlaq mulia dan Allah mengampunkan dosa2 kita, dosa2 mak-ayah kita dan semua hambaNya dan memberikan kita ganjaran jannah dgn rahmat Allah jua amiin ya Allah ya Karim. Saya mohon maaf zahir batin, hidup ini terlalu singkat untuk disia2kan. Tegurlah bila saya salah. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim la haula wala quwata illah billah hil aliyil aziim. Astaghfirullah hal aziim wa atubu ilaik. Salam ukhuwwah

ajari anak-anak kita erti kehidupan...

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...doa abah semuga anak-anak abah berjaya dunia dan akhirat This is a powerful message in our modern society. We seemed to have lost our bearing & our sense of direction. One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision. The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score. The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none". The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees. The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes

Majlis Korban Perdana bersama Saudara Kita di Hulu Simunjan

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Gambar -gambar Majlis Korban Perdana Anjuran Hikmah Sarawak di Hulu Simunjan yg di Rasmikan Oleh Yang Berbahagia Datu Misnu Hj Taha, Setiausaha Agung Hikmah Sarawak.

Bring out the positive...

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Dalam kehidupan kita seharian...banyak perkara positif yg berlaku keatas diri kita darpada perkara-perkara negatif,tapi kita selalu fokus kpd yg negatif dan separuh drp tenaga kita gunakan utk perkara negatif itu. Ironinya,ini kerana the goods and positive things sudah menjadi perkara biasa (so common),so much so sudah menjadi part of life dan kita tidak menyedari keujudan nya.Sebaliknya ,Perkara Negatif,dan Permasalahan kecil atau besar akan mendapat perhatian kita kerana ianya "tidak menjadi kebiasaan" (relatively unusual) Unfortunately, Dgn memberi perhatian kpd perkara-perkara negative ,kita juga memberi perkara itu kekuatan dan tenaga dan sokongan. Obviously that's not really what you want. Instead of letting the small number of difficulties grab all your attention, work to become more aware of the overwhelmingly large number of good things. Challenge kan diri kita sendiri.. to compile a list in your mind, as the day goes on, sekurang-kurangnya 20 good, positive, va

Act upon yr knowledge..

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Muhammad bin Abi ‘Ali al-Asbahaanee recited: “Act upon your knowledge and you will profit, O man Knowledge does not benefit so long as one does not perfect his actions Knowledge is beauty and Taqwa (Fear) of Allah is its decoration Those with Taqwa are always preoccupied with their knowledge The proof of Allah, O possessor of knowledge, is immense Neither plotting nor scheming concerning it is of any use Acquire knowledge and perform deeds as much as you can And do not let vain pastimes and argumentation distract you Always make it your goal to benefit the people And beware, beware of fatigue and weariness overtaking you Admonish your brother with gentleness when he makes a mistake For knowledge is affectionate with those who are overcome by errors And if you are amidst a people that have no religious morals Then command them to do good when they act ignorantly (i.e. sin) And if they disobey you, then remind them without getting annoyed And be patient, strive in patience and do not l

keutamaan kita...fikirkanlah

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Betapa besarnya nilai wang kertas bernilai RM1 apabila dibawa ke masjid untuk disedekahkan; tetapi betapa kecilnya kalau dibawa ke Mall untuk dibelanjakan! Betapa lamanya melayani Allah selama lima belas minit namun betapa singkatnya kalau kita melihat filem. betapa sulitnya untuk mencari kata-kata ketika berdoa (spontan) namun betapa mudahnya kalau mengata atau mengumpat tanpa harus berfikir panjang-panjang. Betapa asyiknya apabila pertandingan bola dipanjangkan waktunya namun kita mengeluh ketika khutbah di masjid lebih lama sedikit daripada biasa. Betapa sulitnya untuk membaca satu helai Al-qur'an tapi betapa mudahnya membaca 100 halaman dari novel atau majalah yang laris. Betapa beria-ia orang untuk duduk di depan dalam pertandingan atau konsert namun lebih senang berada di saf paling belakang ketika berada di Masjid Betapa Mudahnya membuat 40 tahun dosa demi memuaskan nafsu berahi semata, namun alangkah sulitnya ketika menahan nafsu selama 30 hari ketika berpuasa. Betapa suli

Amanah..

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Berapa banyak amanah yg sudah diberikan kepada kita, dan berapa banyak telah kita laksanakan amanah tersebut. Amanah kita sebagai hamba Allah, sebagai anak, sebagai pelajar, sebagai pemimpin, sebagai kakak/abang/adik, sebagai isteri/suami, sebagai sahabat, dan sebagainya. Begitu banyak amanah yg kita pikul di bahu kita. Allah telah tegaskan dalam al-Quran, sesiapa yg tidak melaksanakan amanah yg diberikan, maka dia akan diazab dengan azab yg sangat pedih, nauuzubillah. Menurut Imam Fakruddin ar-Razi, amanah itu dibahagikan kepada tiga perkara; (a) amanah terhadap tuhan, (b) amanah terhadap manusia, dan (c) amanah terhadap diri manusia itu sendiri. ...Amanah terhadap tuhan adalah, dengan melaksanakan segala perintah-Nya dan meninggalkan segala larangan-Nya. Adapun amanah terhadap manusia adalah, melaksanakan segala kewajipan yang wajib dilakukan terhadap manusia. Amanah manusia terhadap dirinya sendiri pula adalah, dia melakukan tindakan yang tidak memberi mudharat pada dirinya send

..nikmat Allah yg sering kita lupa...

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I Am Not Cryin Because … A man reached 70 years of age and he faced a disease; he could not urinate. The doctors informed him that he was in need of an operation to cure this disease. He agreed to have the operation done as the problem was giving him much pain for days. When the operation was completed, his doctor gave him the bill which covered all the costs. The old man looked at the bill and started to cry. Upon seeing this the doctor told him that if the cost was too high then they could make some other arrangements. The old man said “I am not crying because of the money but I am crying because Allah let me urinate for 70 years and He never sent me a bill.” …and if you try to count the blessings of Allah, never will you be able to count them… Surah Ibrahim Allah states that the servants are never able to count His blessings, let alone thank Him duly for them. In Sahih Al-Bukhari it is recorded that the Messenger of Allah( Peace and blessings be upon him) used to supplicate; «اللَّ

dugaan Allah..kesenangan dan kesusahan..

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Di dalam Lisanu al-‘Arab, Ibn Manzur telah menyatakan bahawa bala’ merupakan ujian samada yang baik atau yang buruk. Allah juga telah menjelaskan perkara tersebut didalam surah al-Anbiyaa’; (( وَنَبْلوكُمْ بٍالشَّرِّ وَالْخَيْرِ فِتْنَةً وَإِلَيْنَا تُرْجَعُوْنَ )) “Dan Kami menguji kamu dengan kesusahan dan kesenangan sebagai dugaan; dan kepada Kami-lah kamu semua akan dikembalikan". [Al-Anbiyaa’: 35] Sama-sama berdoa memohon keampunan dari Allah kerana telah menzalimi diri sendiri. Sama-sama telah melanggar larangan Allah dari memakan buah pohon Khuldi. قَالَا رَبَّنَا ظَلَمْنَا أَنْفُسَنَا وَإِنْ لَمْ تَغْفِرْ لَنَا وَتَرْحَمْنَا لَنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الْخَاسِرِينَ “wahai tuhan kami! kami telah menganiaya diri sendiri, dan jika engkau tidak mengampunkan kami dan memberi rahmat kepada kami, maka jadilah kami daripada golongan orang-orang yang rugi” -Al A’raaf: 23 Kesan daripada taubat dari kesilapan yang telah mereka lakukan telah menjadikan diri mereka hamba-hamba Allah yang soleh.

Suatu hari di Hari Raya

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.........bersama ayahanda... Angah dan farith bersama Syamin.. Farith dgn Abah.. maizatul,mami,angah

Selamat Hari Raya Aidl fitri..

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  Kami sekeluarga ingin mengucapan selamat Hari Raya Aidil fitri ,Maaf Zahir dan Bathin... Semuga kita semua memperolehi kemenangan di bulan Ramadan dan menjadikan kita sebagai org yg bertaqwa...

SuatuHari di Bulan Ramadan di Ulu Simunjan bersama Saudara kita.

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....bergambar kenang-kenangan bersama Saudara Kita .. ..menyampaikan bantuan kpd Saudara kita,hasil sumbangan BaitulMal dan Hikmah.. ......sedikit tazkirah Ramadan...

lailatul qadr..

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1. Sesungguhnya Kami telah menurunkan (Al-Quran) ini pada malam Lailatul-Qadar, 2. dan apa jalannya Engkau dapat mengetahui apa Dia kebesaran malam Lailatul-Qadar itu? 3. malam Lailatul-Qadar lebih baik daripada seribu bulan. 4. pada malam itu, turun malaikat dan Jibril Dengan izin Tuhan mereka, kerana membawa Segala perkara (yang ditakdirkan berlakunya pada tahun Yang berikut); 5. sejahteralah malam (yang berkat) itu hingga terbit fajar! “Sesiapa yang bangun (beribadat) pada malam Lailatul Qadar dengan penuh keimanan dan Ihtisab maka baginya keampunan untuk dosa-dosa yang lepas.” [HR: Al-Bukhari dan Muslim]. Beberapa kelebihan tentang Lailatul Qadar yang dapat diambil dari surah al-Qadar antaranya ialah: Allah menurunkan al-Quran pada malam tersebut yang mana ia memberi petunjuk kepada manusia dan memberi kebahagiaan di dunia dan akhirat. Allah SWT menyoal “Apakah kamu mengetahui apakah dia Lailatul Qadar?” Persoalan seperti ini menunjukkan keagungan dan kemuliaan perkara tersebut.•

Selamat menyambut Hari Merdeka

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MELAYU. Melayu itu orang yang bijaksana Nakalnya bersulam jenaka Budi bahasanya tidak terkira Kurang ajarnya tetap santun Jika menipu pun masih bersopan Bila mengampu bijak beralas tangan. Melayu itu berani jika bersalah Kecut takut kerana benar Janji simpan di perut Selalu pecah di mulut Biar mati adat Jangan mati anak. Melayu di tanah Semenanjung luas maknanya: Jawa itu Melayu, Bugis itu Melayu Banjar juga disebut Melayu Minangkabau memang Melayu Keturunan Acheh adalah Melayu Jakun dan Sakai asli Melayu Arab dan Pakistani, semua Melayu Mamak dan Malbari serap ke Melayu Malah mua’alaf bertakrif Melayu(Setelah disunat anunya itu) Dalam sejarahnya Melayu itu pengembara lautan Melorongkan jalur sejarah zaman Begitu luas daerah sempadan Sayangnya kini segala kehilangan Melayu itu kaya falsafahnya Kias kata bidal pusaka Akar budi bersulamkan daya Gedung akal laut bicara

masalah perubatan dlm bulan puasa

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Soalan-soalan yg selalu di tanya pesakit kpd doktor-doktor... 1) Darah keluar dari tubuh ; samada untuk berbekam, ambil darah pesakit, menderma darah, tercedera, darah dari hidung, tangan dan lain-lain. Hukumnya : Tidak batal puasa kerana yang membatalkan adalah yang masuk ke tubuh melalui saluran terbuka hingga ke perut dan bukannya ‘yang keluar' dari tubuh. (As-Siyam Muhdathatuhu wa hawadithuhu, Dr Muhd ‘Uqlah, hlm 215). Manakala pandangan pembatalan puasa dengan berbekam yang berdalil hadith riwayat Abu Daud dan Ibn Majah dengan sanad sohih menurut Imam An-Nawawi, ia telah di pinda (nasakh) dengan hadith dari Ibn Abbas yang menyebut Nabi SAW berbekam dalam keadaan baginda berpuasa. (Riwayat Al-Bukari, 3/43) kerana hadith dari Ibn Abbas ini berlaku tatkala Haji Wida' dan terkemudian dari hadith yang menyebut batal kerana bekam. (Tasysir al-Fiqh, Qaradawi, hlm 90). Malah ini juga padangan majority mazhab kecuali Hanbali. ( Bidayatul Mujtahid, 1/247) 2) Memasukkan sesuatu ke da

do's and dont's in Ramadan

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...kalau diamalkan...insyaAllah selamat dunia akhirat

Marhaban ya Ramadhan

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"Sungguh telah datang kepadamu bulan Ramdhan, bulan yg penuh keberkatan. Allah memfardukan atas kamu berpuasa. Di dalam bulan Ramdhan dibuka segala pintu syurga dan dikunci segala pintu neraka dan dibelenggu seluruh syaitan. Padanya ada suatu malam yang lebih baik dari 1000 bulan. Barang siapa tidak diberikan kepadanya kebaikan malam itu, maka sesungguhnya dia telah dijauhkan dari kebajikan." (Riwayat Ahmad) "Apabila tiba bulan Ramadan maka dibuka pintu-pintu rahmat." (Riwayat Muslim) “Sesiapa yang berpuasa pada bulan Ramadan kerana iman dan ikhlas mengharapkan pahala dari Allah, maka dosanya yang lalu akan diampun oleh Allah.” (Riwayat Imam al-Bukhar)

Ubat-ubatan dan puasa

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Soalan yang selalu di tanya semasa bulan Ramadhan.. “Dok,saya mengidap penyakit kencing manis..saya makan ubat 3 kali sehari..bagaimana saya nak puasa” “ Dok, saya mengidap sakit jantung, makan ubat ,ada yg dua kali sehari ada yang sekali sehari dan ada ubat yg makan nya malam hari,Bagaimana saya nak puasa macam ni” Bulan Puasa atau bulan Ramadhan adalah bulan yang sangat mulia bagi umat Islam..ianya merupakan bulan yang di tunggu-tunggu… Puasa bagi org islam adalah….menahan diri drp lapar dan dahaga dan tidak melakukan perkara-perkara yang membatalkan puasa dari terbit matahari sampai terbenamnya matahari berserta dgn niat” Bagaimana dgn saudara-saudara kita yang hendak mengambil ubat semasa bulan Ramadan? Pesakit tidak seharusnya mengabaikan pengambilan ubat semasa bulan Ramadan. Di dapati ramai yang meninggalkan pengambilan ubat..ada yang doublekan dose ubat di malam hari,ada yang mengurangkan sendiri dose ubat nya dan ada yang langsung tidak mengambil ubat mereka,ini amat membahay

Bila harga gula naik....

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Here is a list of ways sugar can affect your health: * Sugar can suppress the immune system. * Sugar can upset the body's mineral balance. * Sugar can contribute to hyperactivity, anxiety, depression, concentration difficulties, and crankiness in children. * Sugar can produce a significant rise in triglycerides. * Sugar can cause drowsiness and decreased activity in children. * Sugar can reduce helpful high density cholesterol (HDLs). * Sugar can promote an elevation of harmful cholesterol (LDLs). * Sugar can cause hypoglycemia. * Sugar contributes to a weakened defense against bacterial infection. * Sugar can cause kidney damage. * Sugar can increase the risk of coronary heart disease. * Sugar may lead to chromium deficiency. * Sugar can cause copper deficiency. * Sugar interferes with absorption of calcium and magnesium. * Sugar can increase fasting levels of blood glucose. * Sugar can promote tooth decay. * Suga

berfikiran positiflah

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Berfikiran Positiflah :~ 1. Jika engkau bertemu dengan seseorang, maka yakinilah bahawa dia lebih baik daripadamu. Ucapkan dalam hatimu : “Mungkin kedudukannya di sisi Allah jauh lebih baik dan lebih tinggi daripadaku." 2. Jika bertemu anak kecil, maka ucapkanlah (dalam hatimu) : “Anak ini belum bermaksiat kepada Allah, sedangkan diriku telah banyak bermaksiat kepada-Nya. Tentu anak ini jauh lebih baik daripadaku.” 3. Jika bertemu orang tua, maka ucapkanlah (dalam hatimu): “Dia telah beribadah kepada Allah jauh lebih lama daripadaku, tentu dia lebih baik daripadaku.” 4. Jika bertemu dengan seorang yang berilmu, maka ucapkanlah (dalam hatimu) : “Orang ini memperoleh kurnia yang tidak akan kuperolehi, mencapai kedudukan yang tidak akan pernah kucapai, mengetahui apa yang tidak kuketahui dan dia mengamalkan ilmunya, tentu dia lebih baik daripadaku.” 5. Jika bertemu dengan seorang yang bodoh, maka katakanlah (dalam hatimu) : “Orang ini bermaksiat kepada Allah kerana dia bodoh (tidak t

Unity..perpaduan..integrasi...

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When we talk of unity, let us remember that unity does not mean uniformity. It does not mean that we should look alike, eat alike, dress alike. It does not mean that we should not have any differences in opinions. This is diversity, not disunity. Unity does not mean negation of diversity. Diversity is good; disunity is bad. Diversity is a mercy; disunity is a curse. Unity can be achieved with diversity. Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “You shall not enter Paradise until you have faith, and you shall not attain faith until you love each other. Should I tell you something that if you do, you shall love each other? Spread salam among you” (Reported by Muslim). Unity means the unity of purpose and goal. United people are diverse people, but their purpose and goal is one and the same. They must remain conscious of their purpose and goal, and all their efforts must be directed to that purpose. When people of d

Sampaikan dgn cara berhemah...

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Email dari kawan..kita kongsi bersama.... I pushed people away while wanting to correct them I used to exhibit a certain reactionary pattern that seemed to arise whenever I entered a Masjid or Muslim gathering. It was this pesky little habit of immediately taking in my surroundings and making a mental note of everything wrong that I could perceive. I turned from one unknowing victim to another, ticking off all of the Islamic violations they were committing according to my personal pedestal of judgment. “She is not wearing Hijab, tsk! tsk!” “He is laughing with that woman who is most certainly not his wife or family member, shame!” “How can she possibly show up here with her clothing so tight?! Scandalous!” “Does his mom see how he is behaving…where is the Islamic upbringing? That’s what happens when you send your kid to public school!” And the list went on and on. Upon acknowledging the “sin” of others, I would begin to plan how I would correct them. Then one day after becoming aware

Realiti nya...organisasi..

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Realitinya...orang yg berkuasa diatas melihat org dibawah "full of shits".. Dan org dibawah melihat di atas sebagai "asshole"

Belajar mendengar...

Learn to listen, just as you learn to speak IF a person starts telling you, whether in private or public, something that you already knew very well, pretend as if you do not know it. Do not rush to reveal your knowledge or to interfere with the speech. Instead, show your attention and concentration. Imam Ata Bin Abi Rabah said: “A young man would tell me something that I may have heard before he was born. Nevertheless, I would listen to him as if I had never heard it before.” Ata was a Tabi’ee, i.e. the one belonging to the generation coming after the Companions. Khalid Bin Safwan Al-Tamimi, who frequented the courts of two Caliphs, Umar Bin Abdul Aziz and Hisham Bin Abdul Malik, said: “If a person tells you something you have heard before, or news that you already learned, do not interrupt him to exhibit your knowledge to those present. This is being rude and ill-mannered.” Ibrahim Bin Al-Junaid said: “A wise man said to his son: ‘Learn the art of listening as you learn the

to think about...

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To Think About! * We walk around looking at our phone, waiting for that text message or phone call. Yet we never look at the Quran for many days or even months. * We love to talk about anything let it be even the weather but when one person says, Allah said or his ,Messenger (SAW) said, we try to quickly change the subject. * We see on TV, the internet and around us people dying but yet we imagine we are going to live forever. * We plan and plan but none of our plans include seeking Jannah. * We run around all day doing favors for our friends and our loved ones but we barely ever do anything to please the lord of the worlds. So we have to ask ourselves this: * What do we really value? * Do you value this short cheap world? * Do you value the new phone you have? When was the last time we sat by ourselves and cried thinking about our ending? How many times did we ever imagine the Day of Judgment and our fate? Allah shows us how serious it is. Allah describ

her way..or..no way

Recieved this write up from my friend Bronk...interesting.. This is quite interesting. .... (To women) Please take time to ponder..... (To men) Just enjoy the story....... Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom.. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death. The question was: What do women really want? Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end. He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could g
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Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “If somebody reproaches you and makes you feel ashamed of any of your defects, do not make him feel ashamed of any of his defects.” [Abu Daud] Usually, when somebody points out one of our shortcomings, we immediately become defensive and start finding faults with them. But the advice of our beloved Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), is that we should listen quietly and evaluate what we are being told. If there is something we can improve about ourselves, it is only to our own ... See Moreadvantage to do so. If the criticism is unjustified, then we are rewarded for our patience and good behaviour in not retaliating. The angels will take care of defending our honour. Starting a counter attack opens the door for Shaytaan to come in and take over. Once Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddiq (radi Allahu anhu) was sitting with the Prophet (sal allahu alaihi wa sallam) when a man came and started to abuse Hazrat Abu Bakr. Hazrat Abu Bakr remained silen

Its ok not to be alright

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You can never tell what people are thinking and feeling unless they tell you, and usually they lie. You ask them, ‘whats wrong?’ and they say ‘nothing’. You accept this because it’s easier than digging for the truth. People smile when they want to cry, they laugh when they want to scream and shout. They pretend like nothing is wrong because they don’t want to face the truth. Things aren’t always rainbows and butterflies, sometimes you gotta scream and cry your anger and sadness to the world, because you can only hold it in for so long before something in you snaps. So when you want to cry, cry. When you want to scream, scream. Don’t hide behind fake smiles, it’s okay to not be alright.

looking for mistakes....mencari keaiban orang..

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Artikel oleh Sheikh Salman utk kita kongsi bersama..... Looking for Mistakes |Sheikh Salman al-Oadah| When it becomes a person’s habit to look for the mistakes of others, he becomes sensitized to them and attracts them to himself like a magnet. This is a tendency found in the school environment, even in kindergarten, and in society as a whole. It stems from an error in aim and intent and a tendency for a person to think he has the right to declare what is correct and what is mistaken and then go overboard in observing and keeping tabs on others, waiting to pounce on any error. This tendency in a person is often compounded by a false perception of the inherent rightness of what he is doing. Overlooking people’s mistakes is not a sign of stupidity or simple-mindedness. Nor does it mean a tacit approval of their mistakes. Someone who concurs with the mistakes of others is no more a person of discernment than one who actively seeks out their mistakes. A person of discretion is one who